
I learnt an important lesson about patience, teaching patience and teaching as well as learning that rewards are best earned.
We have been motivating Jedi so far with the star chart system where he is able to convert a certain number of stars to exchange for a reward. The stars are given on a daily basis as a reward for good behaviour, showing love and kindness to his family members, sharing toys ESP with his mei mei etc.
Well, Jedi has become a new ''victim' to the Thomas the Train market and LOVES Thomas and his friends! After reading a story about Bertie the Bus, he seemed to have fallen in love with him and would pretend that any red bus was Bertie. So we decided to motivate him with this reward. In my excitement, I blurted that the reward up for grabs was a die-cast Bertie as he collects them. Oh man...I was bombarded almost every hour for beloved Bertie. He would keep telling me that he was a good boy, shout out that he was sharing toys with Mei Mei, happily bomb some gold in the toilet bowl and finished his food...so "Can I have Bertie NOW, PLEASE? ' Honestly, I was so tempted to give it to him to put an end to the pestering. I realized that it is so easy to just give in but its harder to say 'No 'and that it has to be earned and will be given when he has reached the target. It tugged at my heart to see his hopeful face crestfallen everytime I told him "Not yet."
So finally the day came when we could give him Bertie! Boy was he ecstatic! He kept saying, 'I earned it! I earned it!' And among all his toys, this Bertie was the most treasured. This taught me that as a parent its so easy to give in but harder to teach the value of patience as I am a rather impatient person myself! But the most heartwarming part of it is to see that he has learnt that rewards have to be earned through hard work and being patient, not giving up hope but resting in the promise that we have given him. So much like our Christian walk. The lessons our children teach us....